“Think,” said Dante, “that this day will never dawn again.”
So you can imagine what this post will be about. I recently started reading this book called How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie. For those who have never read this book before I highly recommend it!…..
I started reading this book mainly because I started realizing that I was falling in the trap of worrying to the point where I couldn’t happily live a day without stress. I realized that worry was taking over my life. I would even worry about simple things such as my impression at a dinner party or what my best friends would think of me. That’s when I picked up this book. The first chapter heading immediately grabbed my attention “Live in Day-tight compartments” I immediately knew that this book was going to be tough to apply. To my surprise, though, I started realizing that the principles to apply were things that we hear about all the time and they are quite easy to apply. After reading the first few chapters I understood that if everyone understood these principles and applied them, the world would be a much better place. So I thought of sharing part one with all of you…
“FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY
RULE ONE: If you want to avoid worry do what Sir William Osler did: Live in “day-tight compartments”. Don’t stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.” – How to stop worrying and start living
In the first chapter of this book Dale Carnegie talks about this first rule. So what does it mean to live in “day-tight compartments”? Well, as Sir William Osler put it: “Touch a button and hear, at every level of your life, the iron doors shutting out the Past—the dead yesterdays. Touch another and shut off, with a metal curtain, the Future—the unborn tomorrows. Then you are safe—safe for today! . . . Shut off the past! Let the dead past bury its dead . . . Shut out the yesterdays which have lighted fools the way to dusty death . . . The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried today, makes the strongest falter. Shut off the future as tightly as the past. . . . The future is today . . . There is no tomorrow. The day of man’s salvation is now.” Sir William Osler is not saying that we can’t plan for the future. By all means, plan for the future! Prepare by living now. Act now to prepare… and if our planning doesn’t turn out the way we wanted it to, we shouldn’t give too much thought for it. Why? Because its in the past! We can’t change the past! Dale Carnegie quoted Christ’s prayer: “Give us our daily bread.” He later stated: “Remember that that prayer asks only for todays bread. It doesn’t complain about the stale bread we had to eat yesterday;” If we fully accept that we can’t change the past and that the future is far from our grasp, we start realizing that now in the present we have much more power and potential than we do in the future or than we did in the past. So you really want to buy that nice car? You want to become a singer someday? You want to have your face appear on television? Well you can dream about those things all day… but what are you going to do today to let that happen? Yes, today we can determine our future by making decisions that will lead us to where we want to go. So lets start creating our future and lets start letting go of the past… so to some it up: lets start living in “day-tight compartments”.
“RULE 2: The next time Trouble—with a capital T—backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can’t solve my problem?”
b. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst—if necessary.
c. Then calmly try to improve on the worst—which you have already mentally agreed to accept.” – How to stop worrying and start living
So, are you worried of getting a bad grade in an exam? Yes? Me too. So Let me show you how to apply this formula….
a. What is the worst that can possibly happen if I get a bad grade? Well, I probably won’t pass the exam, my parents might be upset with me and my teacher/professor will have to probably have a long talk with me about it.
b. I fully accept these consequences (which also means that I am talking full responsibility over my choices) of my getting a bad grade.
c. What can I do to stop these consequences from happening? Well I can definitely start studying and I can also ask for study help from family, friends, teachers and others.
See? Not so bad. If we applied this formula to every Trouble that we ever have or will have…there is probably going to be a higher chance that this Trouble won’t be a Trouble after all….
“RULE 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. ‘Those who do not know how to fight worry die young.'” – How to stop worrying and start living
This is actually true. Our emotions tend to transform themselves into something physical. For instance: if you think negative things or if you worry, it will transform itself into some sickness or major system dysfunctions. Let me remind you, this happens in the long term, so if we start stopping our worrying habits and start living now, we won’t have to deal with the terrible consequences of it later!!
I am so grateful that I was able to share this with you today… Tell me if you would like me to continue writing posts like this!! I await your comments!!
I will update you all about part 2 of this book in my next post!