“Life, we learn too late, is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour” – Stephen Leacock

“Think,” said Dante, “that this day will never dawn again.”

So you can imagine what this post will be about. I recently started reading this book called How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie. For those who have never read this book before I highly recommend it!…..

I started reading this book mainly because I started realizing that I was falling in the trap of worrying to the point where I couldn’t happily live a day without stress. I realized that worry was taking over my life. I would even worry about simple things such as my impression at a dinner party or what my best friends would think of me. That’s when I picked up this book. The first chapter heading immediately grabbed my attention “Live in Day-tight compartments” I immediately knew that this book was going to be tough to apply. To my surprise, though, I started realizing that the principles to apply were things that we hear about all the time and they are quite easy to apply. After reading the first few chapters I understood that if everyone understood these principles and applied them, the world would be a much better place. So I thought of sharing part one with all of you…

“FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY

RULE ONE: If you want to avoid worry do what Sir William Osler did: Live in “day-tight compartments”. Don’t stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.” – How to stop worrying and start living

In the first chapter of this book Dale Carnegie talks about this first rule. So what does it mean to live in “day-tight compartments”? Well, as Sir William Osler put it: “Touch a button and hear, at every level of your life, the iron doors shutting out the Past—the dead yesterdays. Touch another and shut off, with a metal curtain, the Future—the unborn tomorrows. Then you are safe—safe for today! . . . Shut off the past! Let the dead past bury its dead . . . Shut out the yesterdays which have lighted fools the way to dusty death . . . The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried today, makes the strongest falter. Shut off the future as tightly as the past. . . . The future is today . . . There is no tomorrow. The day of man’s salvation is now.” Sir William Osler is not saying that we can’t plan for the future. By all means, plan for the future! Prepare by living now. Act now to prepare… and if our planning doesn’t turn out the way we wanted it to, we shouldn’t give too much thought for it. Why? Because its in the past! We can’t change the past! Dale Carnegie quoted Christ’s prayer: “Give us our daily bread.” He later stated: “Remember that that prayer asks only for todays bread. It doesn’t complain about the stale bread we had to eat yesterday;” If we fully accept that we can’t change the past and that the future is far from our grasp, we start realizing that now in the present we have much more power and potential than we do in the future or than we did in the past. So you really want to buy that nice car? You want to become a singer someday? You want to have your face appear on television? Well you can dream about those things all day… but what are you going to do today to let that happen? Yes, today we can determine our future by making decisions that will lead us to where we want to go. So lets start creating our future and lets start letting go of the past… so to some it up: lets start living in “day-tight compartments”.

“RULE 2: The next time Trouble—with a capital T—backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:

a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can’t solve my problem?”

b. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst—if necessary.

c. Then calmly try to improve on the worst—which you have already mentally agreed to accept.” – How to stop worrying and start living

So, are you worried of getting a bad grade in an exam? Yes? Me too. So Let me show you how to apply this formula….

a. What is the worst that can possibly happen if I get a bad grade? Well, I probably won’t pass the exam, my parents might be upset with me and my teacher/professor will have to probably have a long talk with me about it.

b. I fully accept these consequences (which also means that I am talking full responsibility over my choices) of my getting a bad grade.

c. What can I do to stop these consequences from happening? Well I can definitely start studying and I can also ask for study help from family, friends, teachers and others.

See? Not so bad. If we applied this formula to every Trouble that we ever have or will have…there is probably going to be a higher chance that this Trouble won’t be a Trouble after all….

“RULE 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. ‘Those who do not know how to fight worry die young.'” – How to stop worrying and start living

This is actually true. Our emotions tend to transform themselves into something physical. For instance: if you think negative things or if you worry, it will transform itself into some sickness or major system dysfunctions. Let me remind you, this happens in the long term, so if we start stopping our worrying habits and start living now, we won’t have to deal with the terrible consequences of it later!!

I am so grateful that I was able to share this with you today… Tell me if you would like me to continue writing posts like this!! I await your comments!!

I will update you all about part 2 of this book in my next post!

 

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Positive or Negative?

Hi everyone!! Recently I haven’t been blogging very much because I currently live in Italy and the school, homework and extracurricular activities take up much of my time. When I get the chance I try to write an now that I have been up to date with some of your blogs…I have been inspired to pick up blogging again…😀👌

A topic that I think about frequently is our emotional state…our mentality. I like reflecting on this topic because I believe that when we say “life is terrible” or “everyone has it better off than I do” it’s not really the case…we are the people who chose to look at life in a negative way…instead of in a positive way. I also believe that if we make positive statements about ourselves, our lives and the people around us, even if we are going through tough situations, our life will drastically change because we will begin to see the positive instead of the negative. 

Why is this important? Well…according to me if we chose to have a positive energy, frequency, vibration, etc. not only will it affect us…but also the people around us. Studies prove that a persons high or low emotional frequency is contagious. Others can literally change from positive to negative and vice versa by being around someone who gives off that specific kind of emotional energy!

I am telling you all this because I personally believe that everything starts with us. We CAN’T procrastinate and say something along these lines: “I’ll change as soon as that person starts changing!” We CAN change the world just by our positive example!!

STAY POSITIVE AND START LOOKING AT ALL OF THE BIG BLESSINGS INSTEAD OF THE SMALL DEFECTS OF OUR LIVES!!!

No matter what your past has been, you have a spotless future!

-Hugh B. Brown 

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Hey guys!! I hoped that you liked this post!😃

Please share in the comments below what you think about this topic!! Also please feel free too share what you guys will try to do to continue to keep the positive energy pumping like wildfire!!!👊

(P.S. I would LOVE to hear your feedback on this post!! Tell me if you would like to continue to read more things like this!!)

To Dreamers…


This post is for the dreamers out there in this world. You are our future, our hope, and the ones who make the difference! Don’t believe it when others tell you that you are not good enough or that you are not qualified to make great things happen. You are perfectly qualified to make great things happen and to change someone else’s life for the better. 

I ask you to continue to move forward with perfect faith that what you are doing will change the world. Believe me when I say that there are people out there who don’t believe in themselves and who need someone to tell then that they are enough. 

Don’t be afraid to offend people and don’t be afraid about being unpopular because unfortunately not everyone is going to like you. Share what you believe, stand up for someone in need, make the right decision and I promise you that you will someday receive the sadisfaction of being surrounded by a positive, happy environment. 

Please remember that the future is the fruit of what we do now. So act…and show the world what it means to be a TRUE dreamer!

Life….a gift not a burden


Life is a not a walk in the park, nor is it a heavy burden that we must carry till we die. Life is. We choose. Life is not and never will be trial-free, but just because there are trials doesn’t mean we can’t learn from them.We are given hardship to feel joy and happiness. Life is the beginning and the end, it is the top and bottom of a mountain, it is the greatest gift we have ever received. Life puts interest in the things that we see and hear, it makes each and every one of us interesting and individual.

So, next time that you look at a difficulty of yours and blame life itself, think twice and be grateful.  Even if it seems like the road will never and and that we are condemned to keep walking for eternity, we will one day be rewarded for our perseverance and hard work. For storms end and the sun will always continue to shine. 

Touch

I have started following a WordPress blog of a dear friend of mine and I was deeply touched by the way that she writes and expresses realigns and senses. I hope you have the opportunity to visit her blog and to read her newest posts!! Here is a post that I particularly liked from her blog…

I discover humor. More specifically, irony. It’s the only way I’m able to cope with the fact that I’m bored. Infinite possibilities, endless limits, unrestrained thought, and yet,…

Source: Touch

If I was a bluebird in complete!

This is the entire poem of if “I was a Bluebird”. I have also added the last finishing stanzas at the end of the poem, hope you enjoy!!

If I were a bluebird,

I’d travel far and wide

I’d see the flowers and the trees

In homes I would abide.

I’d go to every land

And fly over every sea

Because being a flying traveler is who I’m ment to be.

But then one Sunday morning, after hour seven

I’d fly to my small nest once more

My sweet earthly heaven.

And on that very day, when just settled in

I’d here the cry of my kind

And right then and there, a friend I would find.

I would never have expected

To find someone like her

And because of her great joy and love, I was deeply affected.

We told about our lives

And the little world we lived in

And soon she became my heart twin.

We laughed and cried together

And grew to old age

But we still remained friends forever.

And then one gloomy Friday, after twelve noon

My dearest friend passed away

But I would be with her soon.

Being old in age

My young ones gone from home

I sat in my nest to remember my young stage.

The traveling, the fun

And friendships, some long gone

I remembered each moment with longing and with love.

For if I were a bluebird, I would want to live my life

In immense joy and great love

For every deed and simple strife.

I would try to share my kindness

And be grateful for my world

Because without the gift of gratitude, we would never feel graciousness.